Things you need to know before getting married

[DrJames]

If a thing is too tight it can crush you head, ahahahahahahahahahahahh

[Scottish_Republican]

Originally posted by DrJames
If a thing is too tight it can crush you head, ahahahahahahahahahahahh

That depends where you put it on...

[emma25]

Hey boy's.... what are you talking about?

[DrJames]

I was catching crayfish beneith the stones.
I came up with something. It was a frog.
A man must becareful where he put his hand.
much more his heads ahahhaahhaha

[smb]

Originally posted by Scottish_Republican
First things first, I really dig that "wave chick" at the top. She'll do me, if she fits the criteria. Sorry, I had to say that...

Here's some stuff I agree with.
"marriages could be saved if the engaging parties recieved training before they entered into that sacred arena."

Many could perhaps. Some people don't realise what they're getting into.

"Men and women do not understand each other like how they profess."

Pretty common.

"You need to know about the culture the man is coming from."

And he needs to know about yours.

"The power struggle among them hinders them from coming to any agreement."

"Painful childhood upbringing, like sexual abuses can causes a woman to be bitter and her husband never know what is bothering her, always thinking that he is the one making her unhappy."

"You two need to talk about sexual preferences before marriage."

"The good thing about a premarital agreement is that it make each party aware of what they are getting into."

I think this is good, although some see marriage contracts as a sign of distrust.

I don't agree with this though -
"Sex is the only problem in marriage that can be fix with pills, good eating and good rest."

Well familiarity can breed contempt, and in the bedroom too. Pills don't always fix that.

"Problems will never rise before the marriage begins, if it does it is a rare case."

I know of many engagements which have broken off for this very reason.

"When your marriage is about to hit the rock, there is no time for stupid and one-sided counselors."

There are two arguments for this. The one you state, but there is also the argument that men and women have particular experiences which the other doesn't, and so may need these.

"BEWARE OF PEOPLE WHO ARE POSSESSED WITH FAMILIAR SPIRITS"

Perhaps not so easy to identify.

"If you married to a white person you have gone white. You are white. If you married to a black person, you have gone black. You are black. Make your mind up before you cross the racial fence. There is going to be a split between you and some of your relative."

The relatives and friends in these situations can be the problems.

I think this is one of those rare times that I completely agree with you.

I know in the U.S., divorce is so easy here. In the Christian faith I am actually considered old for not being married. I think many people enter into marriage with the attitude of "until divorce do us part." If I'm ever going to get hitched, it will be real, I will be ready, and it will last past this life.

[PRgirl]

Originally posted by Scottish_Republican

I don't just have a one sided view of the thing. Too many people go into marriage without realising what it entails. Others go into too easily. I think there's only one person I've ever met that I would have even considered marrying. And that's just "consider". I would have had to have even better bases to do so.

PRgirl: My curiosity sure cropped up with this statment by Scottish Republican. Is he for real? I have no idea about SR's age, but he seems not too young or too old. I would guess early to mid thirties maybe. And he has not married yet? Doesn't he realize, he might already be middle aged? LOL. Marriage. I am one of the few people I know who really enjoys being married and in fact during my stay in Mexico, ordered a miniature wedding cake to celebrate my 21st wedding anniversary, and strolled the city with my husband on our anniversary, when some policeman did the famous 'mordida' on my husband and invented some false traffic violation to charge him $100 pesos. Lol.

SR, you seem to me (as the 39 year old woman I am) to be quite attractive all around. Why haven't you found the right woman for marriage? I wonder? You know I can't even think of not being married really. It has been such a rewarding experience and tremendously fulfilling and fun, and I enjoy my husband's presence way too much. I think most people should just enjoy each other and not waste time looking for perfection or 'the grass is greener' bull. It is not. Work with the one you love. And like that old song says, "love the one your with". Nothing enriches life more than loving someone so deeply and completely, and looking back at many decades together and many adventures shared and then sleeping next to them and waking up with them, and drawing such security and absolute acceptance and love through simple familiarity and affection and non-judgemental giving. El amor es bonito is right. It sure is.

SR....me sorprendes. You are a very, very attractive male, and I find it hard to believe you have not found someone by now..

Is he kidding me?

PRgirl

[Scottish_Republican]

"Why haven't you found the right woman for marriage? I wonder? You know I can't even think of not being married really."

Decent women (as opposed to merely physically attractive women) are hard to find, and too many of them are taken!!! I have had the opportunity probably to get to the point of marriage with several women, but it simply wouldn't have been worth it. My dad was in a loveless marriage for forty years, and then he met my mum and they got on like a house on fire. I don't think it is a matter of "the one", but "the few". I guess you have to adapt, and they do too. It's not about perfection, it's about avoiding a horrible mistake.

I have to put up with them, and they have to put up with me. And if we can do that, that's the biggest problem over and done with. Doesn't sound romantic, but it is practical! I feel I have to have a deep friendship with a woman, rather than mere physical attraction.

"I am one of the few people I know who really enjoys being married"

I think my parents did. Like I say, my dad hated his first marriage, but the worst I ever saw pass between my parents was my dad muttering when my mum was late once. They never rowed. They didn't always agree, but they got on well, and didn't raise voices at each other. The bad side of it was when my mum was widowed, I was the only thing probably stopping her wither away, she was very lost after such a close marriage. Quite an age gap between them - but guess what? It worked.