Marriage / Nesuim; By Messianic Jewish Rabbi Jack (Yaacov) Farber

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Marriage / Nesuim; By Messianic Jewish Rabbi Jack (Yaacov) Farber
http://www.cmy.on.ca/newletters/dec2003.htm CMY NEWSLETTER
Congregation Melech Yisrael, Toronto, Canada
Vol. 9 No. 4 December 2003 - Kislev - Tevet 5764

The institution of marriage is under attack as never before, especially here in Canada where the Ontario courts have condoned gay marriages. However this event I believe is just another symptom of the problem, one among many others. Like the exploding divorce rate among believers in Yeshua, the dramatic increase in women pastors and spiritual leaders (the Jezebel spirit), and the sickening passiveness of men (the Ahab spirit). By the way, the Jezebel spirit cannot exist without the Ahab spirit, they need and feed off each other. Satan desires to destabilize the institution of marriage. Not only because he wants to start a social revolution, but because he wants to attack the relationship of Mashiach (Messiah) Yeshua with His kahilah (assembly of believers). Marriage is more then just a man and a woman falling in love and desiring to live together. It is a microcosm of the relationship between Yeshua and His kahilah. Therefore just as Yeshua is the head of His kahilah, men are to be the heads of their households. We are seeing more marriage related problems in congregations than ever before, why? Because most men do not know how to be loving husbands.

Efesim / Ephesians {5:25} Husbands, love your wives, even as Mashiach also loved the kahilah, and gave Himself for it; {5:22}: Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the L-rd.

Men, do you know what this means? If you have answered that it means lording it over your wife or always insisting on having your way because you’re the boss, then you are a classic example of what I am writing about. Men are supposed to be the spiritual head of their household not the tyrant of them! If you are not the spiritual head of your household then you are not the head of your household no matter how macho you are!

Kefa Alef / 1 Peter {3:7} Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs togetherof the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

“…. husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge,…” What knowledge is this passage speaking about? Knowledge of the Word of G-d and what it teaches about marriage! You need to know from the Bible, how G-d wants you to be a husband. Now I am not going to quote any particular verse on this subject, because then I would be doing your homework for you. Husband, if you expect your wife to consider you the head of your household then you need to be studying G-d’s Word to learn what it means to be the head. There is scripture after scripture, example after example all the way from Beresheet (Genesis) through Hitgalut (Revelation) teaching you how to be a good husband. However you cannot lead by the Word if you do not know what it says. Would you buy a car without having knowledge about the make of the car you are interested in? Of course not, you would be a fool if you did! The same scenario applies to your marriage. If you do not have the knowledge available to you through the Word of G-d, knowledge that will make you the spiritual head of your household, then you are either just a bully or an Ahab.

“…giving honour unto the wife,…” What has happened to chivalry? Rarely do you see a man opening the car door for his wife or holding a door open for her, or waiting for her to sit down and eat before he starts eating. These in my opinion are the most basic ways of honouring your wife. Men if you can not treat your wife or any woman with respect and honour her in these simple areas, then you will not respect or honour her in the ways that really count. So if you want to learn how to honour your wife, start here and the rest will follow.

“…as unto the weaker vessel,…” Some men I know are going to say, “You do not know my wife she is anything but a weaker vessel!” I may not know your wife but I do know that if you, as the man of the house, would accept and do your responsibilities then maybe your wife would not have to be so controlling. If you abdicate your leadership roll then do not blame her for sitting on the throne! Your wife is the weaker vessel and you need to honour that by being the man in the home. Not only by doing the things a man is supposed to do but also by helping her do the things she does. Then you will earn her respect and she will act like the weaker vessel G-d created her to be.

“…and as being heirs together of the grace of life;…” What is the grace of life? Salvation, as well as all the other grace gifts G-d has available for us! When it comes to grace gifts, G-d considers men and women totally equal. Therefore a way of honouring your wife is by respecting her salvation and the gift or gifts that G-d has given her.

“…that your prayers be not hindered…” Men I am sure each one of you are praying for something. Perhaps a better job, or a job, a better car, better finances, healing for yourself or someone else, salvation for a child, family member or friend and the list goes on. Well if you have fallen short in the spiritual knowledge and honour departments, then do not expect to have an effective prayer life; in fact do not anticipate for your prayers being answered!

So how do you rate when evaluating yourself according to this Scripture? Do as I did, ask your wife!

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Baruch HaShem
Rabbi Jack (Yaacov) Farber

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Thanks for that, friend.