Is romance dead?

[Lithgae]

This is all hypothetical, right?

I'd probably be an 'A' as well. Unless I was drunk!

[druid1616]

ok so heres the plan everyone who thinks their an A GO GET WASTED!

good luck wiTH phoning the guy I'm sure he's going to be thrilled oh yes
MERRY CHRISTMAS.

oh I have the best idea everyone and I mean everyon!!! who reads this
when they go out tonight or when ever they go out they must use my ultimate pick up like "YOU'RE HOT"
It works evvvvery time!! just don't do it creepy you have to do it just so. check em out make sure he sees you checking him out (again not creepyish) catch his eye and mouth it say it whisper it to him w/e just let him know "you're hot!' kk
let me know how it goes lol!! MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

[HollyElise]

HAHAHHAHHA

oh, i don't know Druid, that sounds so subtle! Why not just start out with a lap-dance? At your age you can get away with saying, "you're HOT." At my age, they'd look at me like i'm dimented.

I've just been doing a big "boo-hoo" on my friend's shoulder. I'm really tired of going through my days alone!!!! My girlfriends are way too busy with their careers, family and babies to have time for me (they are the type that take only two or three months off from work to have their baby and even remain as trustees of non-profits). I never get to see them. My own family... my dad and brother... are not there for me to such an extreme that recently someone who knows them described me as an orphan. And then there is romance... or lack thereof. It's not that i don't have guys asking me out, it's just that they are not like me and i'm not interested in being more than friends. I try and try to get interested in dating them and i just can't do it. Then, once in a verrrrrrrrrrrrrry long while... i'll meet someone i want to know better, that i enjoy being with, that i am hopeful about, who's interested in me, too... but dang it, i just have the worst freakish luck! Every time something has gone wrong that is beyond my control.... like this guy i've been talking about... the one who's too shy to talk to me now. I mean, he asked ME out first... and if you met him yourself, you'd never guess he's shy when it comes to romance because he comes off like... i don't know, Han Solo or something. How could i have seen this coming? I couldn't! And no... he's not dating anyone else and he still really likes me but he just won't go for it. My heart's still stuck on this and hurting. And he's the first guy who made me feel this way in several years and the last one... what separated us was a freakish accident.

Anyway, enough of my moaning... what i need is advice and/or a pep-talk. I don't know as i've been going about things in the right way. Something really has to change though... i can't stand this any longer. I'm pretty good at keeping my chin up and slogging on... and i did pretty well over Christmas... but i feels like i'm on the outside looking in and without people who care about me i'm losing interest in caring for myself. People have their families and their groups of friends and i keep trying to make new friends but all i seem to make are friendly acquaintences.... it's as if the ranks are closed or it's musical chairs and i'm the one left standing because there just not any open chairs left. So what can i do about this?

Maybe i'm an "A" too and just in denial.

What would you do, Lithgae? Hypothetically, of course.

Or you, druid? ...other than, "you're HOT." I don't think that would work well for me finding a close circle of girlfriends.... well, actually, come to think of it, it probably would work in this town, but that would bring it's own difficulties!

[Fuathas]

Like Lithgae I'm an A, unless drunk.
why's that I dunno. Years ago I decided to stay aloof. I reckon a much safer approach than jist gettin hurt again.

Someone told me that all thos uptight Scots can only reproduce coz they're into drinking, lol. Jist a myth, ain't it?

[Polwarth]

Originally Posted by Fuathas

Like Lithgae I'm an A, unless drunk.
why's that I dunno. Years ago I decided to stay aloof. I reckon a much safer approach than jist gettin hurt again.

Someone told me that all thos uptight Scots can only reproduce coz they're into drinking, lol. Jist a myth, ain't it?

We're not 'uptight' ... merely reticent. I can assure you that drinking had no part in my starting a family.

[Kinkade]

That's why we Americans have to come out to Scotland... So we can loosten things up a bit

[druid1616]

OKokokokokok maybe the "your hot!" line is not for everyone but it does work lol. But anyways Well I think , Hollyelise that you should go and knock that guy on the head. I mean maybe the straight foward aproach isen't you
but give yourself a kick in the ass and see what happens. Just call him and be like Are you into me Cause I"m into you and I'm getting mixed signals form you so I'm letting you know I'm interested so call me when you figure yourself out. Then he'll be like "whoooo dude" and call you. just don't do it in an insane wierd way. Just go with it and It'll work.
As for the friends you just can't date TEEEEEEELLLLLLLL me about it. My closest friends are JImmy john Mike and eric since 8th grade, (but now that I'm cheering I've made some girl friends) but honestly You couldn't paaaaaaay me to date those guys ew and its not even liek their not good looking and just their them you know its wrong..+ john has a kid now so thats even more ew lol
Oh and never stop caring for yourslef always love and take care of yourself becvause your worth it. No one should take care of themselves just for other people you should always want to feel beautiful even if its for yourself. "what separated us was a freakish accident." forget about it and hop back up on that high difficult horse called relationships. cuz the rides are always fun lol.



Polwarth
I can assure you that drinking had no part in my starting a family.
..................... Are you suUure about that....jk