you don't have to read its sorda kinda long, and you probably don't care

[scottishlover4eva]

Hey everyone who reads this!!!! My name is Toni I'm 15 yrs old and live in Florida. Well I have this homecoming thing coming up and I thought this boy who is sooo cute and who constantly flirts with me was going to ask me to go with him. He flirts with me and all but I see now that he does that with every girl he sees. It made me really upset cuz I thought that he really liked me. Then hes going to come up to me right after hanging all over one of my best friends wanting to know whats wrong. What a dumb a** you think he would know that hes hurting people, but he doesn't and he thinks its just all dandy. Well f**k you. Anyways I don't really know why I wrote this but I guess I wanted to get my feeling and stuff out. Sorry for cursing. And Richard my dumb a** brother you better not respond and if you do don't be mean.

sorry so long,
luv always Toni

[HollyElise]

Hi Toni,

i think you've figured out from this that people aren't always what they seem at first. He probably wasn't being mean, he's just a young guy. Hormones rage and intelligence decreases... LOL! Don't take it personally. I'm sure he liked you.

[Texas]

Boys really dont ever understand how women feel...unless women tell them. And 15 year old boys have no concept of monogamy...its all fun and games at that age. Im sure he likes you though...or he wouldnt want to hang with you.

[HappyAboutMyRoots]

Aww Toni I know how you feel.Just forget about him,still be friends just dont hang around him or talk to him as much it will make him wonder what he did wrong.I have a 15 yr old brother(a big pain in the butt) him and all his evil friends ,you know how you walk your dog to the park and they get so excited because they know u will let them off the leash?well that is how 15 yr old boys act I should know I deal with 4 15 yr olds on a daily basis because they think my house is the "hang out".Just dont worry about this boy anymore still talk to him not as much than he'll realize something is wrong and he'll wonder about it that is what happened to my brother but now that brat has a girlfriend.she'll last about two weeks....Youll be okay and I hope you find a date to your dance.good luck

[scottishlover4eva]

Today I didn't really talk to him like I usually do, he didn't care though he just talked to his other friends(girls). I'm going to ask him tomorrow if he really likes me or if hes just messin around. This girl in my class saw him flirting with my best friend and asked him if he liked her and he said hell no so that makes me feel a little bit better. Well g2g. bye

[Simone_MN_USA]

Well, all I have to say is that men at any age will flirt with all the girls and it won't mean anything to them..they'll flirt and nothing will come of it..they'll never ask the girl out, its all fun and games to them..
I can't remember the number of times it's happened to me.. too many to count.. So now i keep my heart well guarded, and flirt right back, knowing that nothing will come of it.. ..unless of course..he makes the first move.

[susandel]

Toni,

Boy am I glad I am not your age. I was in your shoes my entire high school years. I had mad crushes on guys and they flirted all the time and it meant they were nice guys....... period.. You are going to go through your oun learning experiences and that unfortunatly is part of growing up. Yes it sucks.

All I can say to you is the same thing the other people posted before me. Men flirt and you will have to learn men do not have emotions the way women do. They never will. We sit at home thinking about what he is going or what "*****" he is talking to right now. They don't. If you can learn not to get mad at him for talking to a girl and realize he is a friendly person than you will be happier Don't be mad.......guys do not want to deal with that crap from girls......until of course they start dating full time then they have no choice. Don't be jealous guys will put up with that and they should not.....there are always others out there. It is open season for guys your age. Just be happy and let him see the nice Toni who does not get mad. Believe me he will notice you if you are yourself.

Why can't he be friendly with girls? Think about it this way. You are at your locker and some guys come along and talk to you and you laugh and smile. Is that flirting or are you just being yourself? Maybe he is just being himself. At least he has a personality.

And you can write and ask for our opinions any time. We have all been there. Situations in life do not change they get more complicated. So read and learn about the male mind in books and save yourself lots of aggrivation. We are not the same.

Good luck.....Susan