whats your point of veiw?

[moonface]

well just wondering what the majority of people think about long distance relationships and age gaps? whenever i ask anyone thier opinion, they just say the usual "it would never work" or "yeah, go for it"

[HappyAboutMyRoots]

I think long distance relationships are good,as long as you can trust the other person

[susandel]

Moonface,

I agree with Hap. Trust is a hard thing when you are away from someone. Yes it can work out I have lots of friends that are in that situation. I could never do it. I think I would go nuts thinking about my boyfriend somewhere. That is just my opinion. I am lucky because I can tell right away who is good or who is trouble, that is what I do for a living. I read people.........it is a science and the police use me to help them. I think if we all could learn this skill we could never fool anyone again. Do you need help with knowing if you are compatable with someone? Just tell me and if I can help we can talk about it.

I think if you truely love yourself than you can love anyone of any age........don't do anything illegal. The trouble is most people think there is an altrerior motive in dating someone much older or much younger. We are programmed as children to believe that we must stay with people out own age. Why? We are all different and we will love whoever we fall in love with. If you do not date someone you love then you are just robbing yourself of happiness. Most family's and friend's can not deal with it....but.....that is their own character flaw and they can work on that if they so choose. People will get over it if there is unconditional love.

[mell]

ye.. dont think i could do it myself..long distance that is... though i admire those that can make it work,,,cause god knows relationships are hard enough without putting distance between it.... frienships are very possible, but i think romance it would be torture ..... but one can never say for sure...
umm being with someone older.... i myself am not all that attracted to older men...well george cloony and johnny depp and perhaps brad pit are all exceptions... but that depends i think that age makes no difference whre love is concered,each to their own.....

[susandel]

mell,
I agree with your choice in older men. I am older.....44....and I think Jonny and Brad are so hot. George was hot when he was in Facts of life and Rosanne............but he is now handsom.......I like cute better on him.

[moonface]

i suppose i am asking about long distant relationships because iv sort of kept in contact with a guy i met 2 year ago, and i know possibly it aint going to end up working out, i do know that if i end up with someone, they most probably will be older than me. this guy was 20 year older than me but i didnt care when i was with him it was just when other people started to comment on it. But like you say, its because we're programmed like that as children, and were as some people have a care free, do as you like attitude, others cant see past the fact that age is just a number and makes no difference to the way we live our lives.

[HappyAboutMyRoots]

well age really isnt nothing serious if you are like 15 and hes 35 than its wrong but if your an adult,do what makes you happy.my aunt is 40 something her husband is almost 60 and their happy so i d ont think age matters as long as your over 18