Naughty, naughty

[susandel]

Thanks for explaining that Simone. I guess I will never say never about developing internet emotions.

Hey Simone do you have a MN accent? I went away with my sister-in-laws family to Vermont. They were from MN and all my sisters argued with the girls in that family all week about who's diction was correct. I was young then and did what kids do............but still......I think I pronounce words the right way!

[HollyElise]

Originally posted by texisred
Okay, as a 'social scientist,' I'm curious......Has anyone--or anyone you know (wink, wink)--ever made up a false internet ID, pretending to be someone else, then got romantically involved with an on-line pal, then had to bail when the water got too deep?

Well yes, actually. I have to confess. I'm really Catherine Zita-Jones and i'm not happy in my marriage to Michael Douglas. I've been trying to keep it out of the press, but I'll dump him as soon as i can find better. Tell me more about yourself, Red.

[texisred]

okay, y'all, thanks for the responses!
here's what happened, true story and all! but very sad....
"lisa" is a lovely girl, but extremely self-conscious because she's over-weight. she became quite fed-up because she would talk to guys in chat rooms, have a great time with them, but as soon as she sent them the pic they requested it was, "okay, gotta go, see ya" and they disappeared altogether! so, lisa decided to try an experiment, and filched a pic of ANOTHER friend to use as her own! well, the difference was astounding. she 'met' a guy in a chatroom and things were going along swimmingly for a few months......then he told her he would be down in her area over christmas and that he reallyreallyreally wanted to meet her! well, it was 2 months till christmas, but lisa realised it was time to either 'fess up or end it. when asked for advice, i told her to 'fess up, give him a pic of herself, and go from there....or just put an undeniable end to the blossoming romance. she chose the latter course. but rather than make up something simple such as 'sorry, i've met someone else,' she phoned him, said she was lisa's sister, and that she was very sorry to tell him this, but lisa had been killed in a car accident. the poor guy was really cut up about it. so was lisa.....but imagine her chagrin when he showed up at her door christmas week with an arm-load of roses and a sympathy card!
tsk, tsk, tsk.
i always have believed honesty is the best policy....and i think lisa knows that now as well, beyond any doubt!

[susandel]

That is a very sad story. I have been heavy before but had no problems because I never would lie about my weight. I made it an asset to my personality....there is more to love. You start off with a fib and you will never be honest in a relationship. You can never expect anyone to be truthful to you either.

That makes my heart ache for Lisa. But it is a funny story at the same time. That is a definite Oprah story. Advise Lisa to get counseling. No one should be embarrassed because of their looks.

If the guy would not have liked her for her fluffy body than he is not worth keeping. If the guy has no problem with her weight than he should be compassionate and totally understanding of her reason behind her actions.....if not he deserves what he got!

Susan

[Simone_MN_USA]

well,susan..to answer your question..Yes, I guess I have a minnesota accent..at least that's what my south dakota friends tell me..lol

that was a very sad story..I have issues about my weight,but i'm not a shamed of it..and I wouldn't lie about it to someone over the internet.. what's the point..if a man can't like you for your personality, sense of humor and all the other qualities that make you you..then he's not worth having..
When your looks fade away..what's left??

so, what happened after he found out the truth??? did they end on bad terms???

[ScotKat]

Thats a really sad story,

I feel for lisa but I also feel for the poor guy. I have never really been heavy, plump but not heavy, so I can't say that I would understand how she feels, but rejection is not nice in any shape or form.

Its a shame that she did not come out and say that she lied about the picture and why, after that long she would have had some idea about the guys personality. But to tell him that her sister had Died, thats low and very hurtful to both him and herself

Did she tell him the truth in the end or is he still mourning his lost friend?

I'm sure that your friend is quite lovely and sounds as if she might have had a few setbacks, but that is no excuse. I hope she sorts it out for herself.

[texisred]

yes, the whole thing IS very sad. as i understand it, lisa thanked craig for the flowers and the card, then he went on his way. she never did tell him the truth. and to think he came all that way, just to express his sympathy to lisa's family......tells me he probably is a very nice person, and who knows? he must have cared for lisa, her personality, at least, so who's to say he wouldn't have been understanding about her weight and her deception, had she made a clean breast of it all when they began to get very fond of one another. both of them may have missed out on a super relationship, all because of lies.
as for people getting very emotionally 'involved' over the 'net, certainly it can--and does--happen. what i think is so wonderful about it all is that the relative anonymity of the 'net gives people the opportunity for several things: 1.) it is possible to indulge in deepest honesty, and achieve great intimacy by 'letting it all hang out' with another person. 2.) a person may reveal to another only the things he/she wants known about himself/herself. 3.) someone may live out a fantasy-life, but only at a price, as lisa discovered.
personally, i have always found the truth much more interesting--and far simpler--than deception, plus, i believe that honesty begets honesty. we all know how great it is to run into someone in a chatroom (or group or forum)with whom we really click. over a year ago, i met someone on the 'net who shares my love of history, music, literature, etc., and although we are of very different ages and backgrounds and live some 4695 miles apart, we've become the 'fastest' of friends. we are nothing if not emotinally involved, and i think it's just fantastic. everyone should be so lucky!