Saying goodbye...

[Neptune_Turce_Princess]

How can i do it? How will i manage? I have asked these questions to myself over this week... At the back of my mind, i knew it was happening, and yet, was too afraid to admit it even in my head... No matter how ill any member of my family has been, i've never said goodbye to them, because, yeah i knew, they wouldn't die... But now, i fear i will lose my mother and sister in law in almost the same week... My mother, who suffers from cancer, is at the end of her fruitfull life, and my sister in law, who you all know as Lou777, has been unable to keep herself from dropping out of consciousness for the past 2 or 3 days...

Has anyone here had to deal with losing a loved one? How did you cope? Does the feeling that your life will never be the same and there is no point living EVER go away? My heart is breaking... i'm losing the feeling of wanting to live, and neither has left us yet....

Neptune

[sottichpiper]

i lost my grandmother and it is not an easy thing to deal with. i still can't deal with it. and i know it hurts.and the feeling does go away sorta. it tends to be not a mourning loss thing but happiness that their suffering has stopped and they are in a better place now. i wrote a poem when my grandmother died and another one about losing loved ones awhile ago. if anyone would like to hear them please tell me and id be happy to post them

[Marhar]

In your sorrow there is a need for you to be strong so that other members of your
family can rely on you to help them in your time of great need. It will not be easy but
your God will give you the will to carry on. Our thoughts are with Firat and the little
ones who will need your strength and guidance in their future. We will also say
prayers for Louizan’s family who must be devastated.
My Father died of Cancer in 1971 and it was not until my Mother joined him in 1983
(after a Stroke) that I stopped dreaming about him being with us, the dreams were so
real. They say time heals but you never forget nor would want to, it is not goodbye, it is till we meet again.
Once again our thoughts are with you.
Marhar

[Neptune_Turce_Princess]

Marhar,

have you heard that Louizian is now gone? It happened this morning at 9am... No-one knows what to do... I am to be in Istanbul in a few hours... Louizian left a few words for everyone she knew from here, so i will write it in the places i know she went... The words are completely heartbreaking, i hated listening to them as Annaliza told me...

Neptune

[Celyn]

Neptune_Turce_Princess

I only heard just now - Marhar was kind enough to tell me. What can I say? I am so very very sorry. I am thinking of you, and of Firat and the children, and Annaliza who was so good at trying to keep us up to date with news as she came out of the coma etc. It is so very hard to believe; I had been chatting with her in scotttishsearch when she had to go back to hospital.

I don't know what to say. all my best wishes for all your family, and I wish strength especially to Firat for the children.


Celyn

[talbert]

Neptune,
Im not sure if this will help, because everyone's journey is created by the individual.
I lost my sister-in-law last Dec. She battled breast cancer for 3 years. Her mother died 3 months before she passed on. My brother's in laws suffered two losses in such a short peroid of time. The sisters have had a hard time gaining any kind of normal existance. The father has recently remarried to an elderly lady in his church. My brother has recently met a lady in his church. My brother told me how at the end of his wife's life she encouraged him find love again. He cried on her bed for hours. He keeps his grief in check by understanding her soul is on a new journey and is flurishing.
Lou (although I never knew her) is probably loving looking down and seeing Scotland.com communicate about her. She probably is still communicating with all those she hold dear. Just not in the conventional way.

[Riccie]

It is hard to say good-bye. I lost my Mother in June 1999 from cancer and my Dad in Dec.2000. (He was buried on his birthday) People say that time heals all wounds but although I'm still here, I miss them. The one joy I have is that now my cancer has come back after a peaceful(?) 5 years, maybe now I can join them. I know this much to be true. I know in my heart, soul, mind and body that your loved ones are alive when they leave this world. I know what Heaven is like and I know that we all go back to be with Heavenly Father. Yes, I'm a Christian but although I'm not pushing my values off on you, I DO know that I will be with my parents again. My heart goes out to you. I do know how you feel. I was with my Mother through her struggle and I know that although she was tired of the pain and was ready to go, I wasn't ready to let her go. I miss her and I think of her everyday. Yes, the pain lessens but it's still there. E-mail me if you wish. Let me know how your Mother is doing and believe me when I say I will pray for her and for you. God bless you, Riccie