Living with Cancer

[crying-charlie]

Hi! Most of you on here no me, and again thanx for helping get this topic started.

As you know my father was diagnosed as having Cancer during June 2000.

It started off as Prostate but spread to his bones.

When I was first told, a large black vale engulfed me and I was distraught, not really knowing what this ment. As with most fathers I thought mine would live forever, after all he was my hero and hero's don't die. Right?

July this year Mum & Dad whent on holiday in the highlands, as they do two or three times a year. They are both keen walkers and love this country so much. I saw them before they whent, and as usual my father looked and felt great.

They were due to call in to see me and my family on their way back down, that was on a Monday. At 7am I had a call from Dad saying they were going straight home as he was having problems walking, by the time they reached home, 5 hours away, he had lost the use of his legs totally.

On Tuesday he was rushed for what they call an MRI scan, then on Wednesday evening he was rushed into hospital and underwent a 7-8hour operation, followed by another MRI scan and a second 1 hour operation.

I will continue this on Monday if anyone is interested, and I will tell you how he is today.

Thank you

Crying Charlie

[sottichpiper]

Thats awful. i hope he gets the help he needs.
My grandmother had lung cancer almost two years ago. and i can still recall the exact words and sequence of events that occured. Sadly to say she did not make it. she caught the flu and that finished her off. she had been in remmission until she caught the flu. then it came back stronger than before and she passed away within 24 hours.
I trully hope your father gets better. i know cancer isn't an easy thing to deal with.
I understand what you mean about you looking at your father as someone who'll live forever. immortal in a way. i always look up to my father even now that im growing up i still look at him as if he will live forever. although deep down i know he won't. cause in my family there hasn't been a male yet to live past 50 without having a heart attack. most dying from them. only my grandpa has survived. and even he is still weakening. so the harsh reality is my father prolly won't live more than another decade or two and i have been treating my body worse and am already experiencing heart problems.
so i trully hope your father can pull through this charlie. And im sure everyone here at scotland.com feels that way.

[Momma]

Of course we want you to keep us posted. Our thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family. How horrible for you and your family that this would happen so quickly. I mean we all expect to bury our parents...someday but our heart needs time to catch up to our head. I feel badly for you Charlie.
I helped my mother-in-law pass over 2 years ago and I can still hear her asking me shortly before she died, with her finger in the air pointing to something I couldn't see.
"Tell me about these angels,Deb."
Well needless to say no one had to convince me anyway but I do know that there are forces at work that we can't see with the naked eye, but we can with the naked heart.
Just keep the faith Charlie and God bless.
Momma

[crying-charlie]

After the ops. he was left without any feeling or movement below his tummy and the doctors didn't hold out much hope of recovery as regards to his legs.

Today, my father is fighting like the hero I know he is. After spending weeks at the general hospital, he was then moved to a rehab hospital, where he is today, and guess what? He can now move his right leg and Thursday last week, he moved his left foot. So my hero is fighting back.

I have learned a grat deal about Cancer over the past 12 months from books, friends and the internet and I am doing a great deal of resurch into the treatment of Cancer. I strongly believe that my father will beat this and will live for many more years. Don't get me wrong, I know we have a long way to go but we will get there.

[sottichpiper]

That is Excellent news Charlie! Im sure you must be extatic. I hope your father continues to get better and i hope that he can beat this.

[Seraphine]

Dear Charlie,

Sorry to hear about your dad's difficulty. Hope things will look up for him - it sounds promising.
Look for my threads on the post section.

Sooner or later,
Many Blessings

Seraphine
The gal with the purple car

[crying-charlie]

Thanx Seraphine,

Now I have Cancer in my life, I have found that you can't get too much information, and talking to people about both their experiences and yours is such a help. There are a great number of websites as well, I have found that this site is a good place to start.

http://www.fightingcancer.com/

And I don't know if there is a God but every morning I say this...."Every day in every way my father will get better and better" and he is!

As for my strength, well I get that from Dad, he never complains and he says "I will beat this" Just to see the progress after what he whent through is insparational. He sets himself goals and one of thoes goals, is to go to the Bristol Cancer Centre as soon as he gets out of hospital.

Anyone interested in findingout more about the Bristol con do so at http://www.bristolcancerhelp.org/

Good health!