Am I gay?

[Wanderer]

I am a 30 something female, with a husband, kids a house and goldfish. I think my life is pretty average, but I have been having thoughts about women in ways I've never have before. My husband is a great lover, but I just keep fantasizing about women. I haven't had an actual experience but even as I write this I'm excited about the idea. I haven't told my husband about this yet, but I think he like many husbands would welcome the opportunity to watch. What confuses me most is that this is all new, I just started these thoughts this year. Yes, I'm sure of that since my fantasies have been of men in my health club for years. Has anybody been through this? Is this a phase? Is it something I need to experience to get rid of? Am I gay? I welcome all comments, suggestions, ideas. You can post here or email me at b4_iwander@yahoo.com.

Thank you

[Manju]

Hey Wanderer

I don't think you are gay. I think that you may be looking for a new experience. If oral sex is your favorite part of sex, then it's natural that you think of a woman performing what pleasures you most. Who but a woman knows what another woman wants and what feels good to women. I'd say you should try te experience at least once.

Good Luck,

Maj

[KauaiGirl]

Hey there,

I just messaged you at your e-mail. Like everyone else I don't think you're gay...just a phase most likely.

Jamie

[mugu]

I agree with Manju.

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Originally posted by Wanderer
I am a 30 something female, with a husband, kids a house and goldfish. I think my life is pretty average, but I have been having thoughts about women in ways I've never have before. My husband is a great lover, but I just keep fantasizing about women. I haven't had an actual experience but even as I write this I'm excited about the idea. I haven't told my husband about this yet, but I think he like many husbands would welcome the opportunity to watch. What confuses me most is that this is all new, I just started these thoughts this year. Yes, I'm sure of that since my fantasies have been of men in my health club for years. Has anybody been through this? Is this a phase? Is it something I need to experience to get rid of? Am I gay? I welcome all comments, suggestions, ideas. You can post here or email me at b4_iwander@yahoo.com.

Thank you

if we are honest with ourselves i think at some point we have all had these kinds of thoughts,your only human and no it does not make you gay.
yes most men would invite the idea of two women together!lol
well only you will know what to do,if you want to act on it on not?
goodluck!

[gunseli]

i say experience it lady,u'll never know without a try.then decide what u really want.

[scotsmancd]

You could be bisexual or bi-curious. It is very common to be married to opposite sex, but be attracted to same sex to. That's how I am,, so I know what it feels like. You may want to talk to your husband anbout it, and tell him how you feel. Do not feel ashamed or anything about how you feel, everyone has thought about it. You may have to experiment with this person, to see how you feel.

If you want to talk anytime, you can e-mail me at mkirk77@hotmail.com and ask for Mike