Help please

[Jessica D]

I have a soon to be 4 year old that is verry strog willed!!! What can i do to get her to behave I am at the end of my rope i need info soon please. thaz

[skookie]

Just a few thoughts--of course no one has the solution to every problem like this!

Make every effort to let her know that you are both on the same team. It helps to keep in mind that four-year-olds are just beginning to have some control over their life. At this age, control is an amazing and exciting concept, and takes a lot of practice to learn how to use it.

Key point #1-don't give in just because you're tired
Key point #2-don't disagree for the sake of arguing...take time to make sure your child knows you will listen to her.

But it is a lot easier to talk about the concepts, than to actually know exactly what to do when your child goes bonkers because she can't have the candy or toy that she wants NOW.

Have you read any parenting books? If you can spend some time in a bookstore, or on Amazon.com...and browse through a few, maybe you can find one that fits your situation.

[Jessica D]

Thaz so much that is a big help! and i will do that and i am new to this but if you want to talk just let me know it would help me a lot to talk to some one well latter

[fluffette_22]

Hi Jessica - good luck with your daughter. I've still got a few years to go til my son reaches that age but we are just entering the "terrible twos" so I have some experience of tantrums.

I'd recommend anything by Jo Frost - she does a program called Supernanny over here and has appeared on Nanny 911 in the states. I don't know if you are familiar with her but we've been using some of her techniques - the naughty corner and time out - with our little boy and it's starting to work.

Good luck!

Lets hope we can breath life into this parenting forum!

Fluffette x

[mee]

Nanny 911 is great, some of the tantrums made my eyes pop out. Brought back memories

[eyoung]

does no-one ever post around here? i ahave to go back 100 days!!!
evelynxoxo

[Babz]

Originally Posted by eyoung

does no-one ever post around here? i ahave to go back 100 days!!!
evelynxoxo

It seems as if no -one has anything they need to ask, sooner or later they will...lolol

I wonder how Jessica is getting on, I hope she calls in and tells us !!