Mis-Carriages

[Mistress]

[i]Well let it be said that not ever issue relating around Family and Parenting are happie ones..

I've a sister whom just went thru her 4th Mis-Carriage.. I've no more words of comfort for her. I cannot even image how she is feeling.. nor would I want to.

There are so many families wanting to bring a life into this world, which just seem to have so many hurdles to leap over.

I myself... know what it's like to deal with these feelings *sigh*, but certainly not on her level. I guess one would say that it is better that the pregnancy is aborted on its own if there are problems with the fetus, but in the same respect, it's just not an easy thing to deal with.

My heart goes out to my sister, of course, and anyone else whom had to deal with this...

And for the rest of my anger on this topic.. I will bring it over to the Religion Section.. lol.. because it's just not something I understand!

Mistress

[kathyv]

Mistress, I am so sorry about your sis. My prayers and condolances are hers. My sister also miscarried about 3 years ago, she tried again and is due in March, this year. Things are going smoothly for her but as she is 43, it's been rough on her body.

I guess I am saying that I can empathise with you, I have been on your side of the fence before.

Has your sister tried to investigate the reasons for the miscarriages? It could be something other than a mal-formed fetus. I do hope she will be ok, and if she does try it again, she will succede.

[Mistress]

[i]Thanks Kathyv...

I too am very sorry for her.. I wish there was something I could do. I have offered to carry a child for her.. if that was the problem.. yes.. I did.. but it's not how she wants to bring her child into this world I guess. Which is fine by me.. lol.. I am just on a roll now with my diet.. so..
he he he

Anyway, yeah.. she has had a series of test actually.. and to be honest.. lol.. I've not only lost faint in Religion as of late, but in Doctors as well.. I remember when I went thru mine.. the Doctor's bedside manner was for the pigs.. OMG.. If slamming a Doctor in the face was not against the law.. I just may have..

Anyway.. to sum it up.. they have not given her any medical reason why. This time around, the Doctor wanted to do a DNC so they should be able to test some of the tissue and hopefully a reason will come of it.. other then that.. I guess.. God didn't feel it was right.. donno. There is a Doctor out near her whom is a specialist, and the best in the Chicago.. but.. urgggg... he won't see her until she has at least 6 miscarriages.. urggg.. anyway.. Whatever eh?

I am happy to hear about your sister. My best wishes to you and your family for a healthy deliver and baby.. See 43 is not too old eh? I think it's wonderful.. and I’m sure it’s a lot on the body.. but the reward will be worth it.

I come from a family of 7 children and I now have 11 Nieces and Nephews.. lol. I think.. (I seem too loose count sometimes.. ) lmao.. but its just a big family and we've never dealt with such sadness before when it came to this..

Be Well..

Mistress

[jacobitedreamer]

Mistress,

I can understand that faith has left you and yet I would still tell you that my prayers and hopes are with you and your family.

As to miscarriages, when I was pregnant, I was treated by a really good doctor, she gave me progesteron pills because her very careful investigations had shown that my own body did not produce enough of it to maintain pregnancy within the first three months. I was lucky to have this doctor, I tell you. And still, the night I gave birth to my daughter, we both almost lost our life. We were on the lucky side and it makes my heart bleed to hear of those who have to suffer such terrible tragedies. See, I was 23 then, not over 40. There always is a risk, age groups are pure statistics here.

A friend of mine (aged 19)lost twins last year just because the instruments her doctor used were not sterile, so she got an abdominal infection which caused her twins to die. The least bit of infection can cause disaster in such a fragile process as pregnancy is. I could have gone and killed that doc for what he did to her.

Even if faith has left you, hope never should. Take care.

[Mistress]

[i]Hello Jacobitedreamer

Let me just say first that it is a pleasure to speak to you again. I'm assuming, but perhaps I shouldn't, that you know that it is me, Pabbybear, from awhile back.. lol.. Anyway.. I do remember chatting with you and it was always a pleasure.

Thank you very much for you kind words. I've slipped a bit lately in my faith. I am not sure what and where I stand on so many issues these days. I don't want to go to deep here, for it's not the religion section.. lol.. but I will say, I desperately try to hold onto Faith and Hope.. there is just so much pain in this world to keep believing. Eventually a soul will break, and I think I have *sigh*

I am very much aware of the progesterone pills. This past year that was the problem I had. It was suggested to me at about 6 weeks to take the pills, but I had heard so many horror stories behind it, that I hesitated. At about 8 weeks or so, my progesterone level was only 13, and the doctor wanted it to be at least a 15, if not a 17 which is borderline as it was. He was a pompous butt-head.. and he gave me no hope at all that I would hold onto that pregnancy. I took a few injections of progesterone to try to speed up the levels because I waited too long to take the pills. And then at the point of 9 weeks or so, being on the pills for two of them, well... I don’t know.. perhaps I took them too late. Perhaps if I was not afraid of what I was told about the side effects of the pills and started them sooner... lol.. Well perhaps perhaps eh? Maybe things would have turned out differently, maybe not.. who knows.

I am very happy that the birth ended on a good note for you and your daughter hon.. It's scary.. Something of such a miracle and so wonderful, just shouldn't be so darn scary.

And I am soooooooooo sorry about your friend.. I think I would have killed the Doctor. That too makes me nervous. When my sister-in-law was in delivery.. she just kept asking for more epidural.. the big wimp that she is.. lmao.. anyway.. they numbed her so much that she couldn't push and turned out that they needed those vice grips that pull the baby out. Well.. My Mother was so furious.. lol.. Giving birth to 8 children naturally and without any drugs, she just was beside herself. But it all turned out fine.

I will say a pray for your friend.. How is she fairing now? Has she tried again? I hope her situation has not ruined the dream for her.

Hope this finds you well..

Mistress

[jacobitedreamer]

Yeah, almost guessed it was you!

My friend wanted to try again, but her partner could not cope with the situation, so they separated. Bad thing indeed.

Some doctors are just horror. There are herbal treatments to help you in pregnancy, I always was a bit into all this... A Christian with a strong hope in Brigidh and the fathers of old, hehehe... Not quite what the pope would recommend...

These pills I told you of, if taken carefully, have no real side effects. Of course hormonal treatment should always be considered well, but sometimes it helps.

Apart from infections and hormonal turbulences, the blame often is to lay on the blood vessels that nourish the abdominal part. Until pregnancy, everything works fine, but now that more blood has to be transported, more nourishment to be provided, they cannot do their service because they are too few, too weak or misbuilt. Simple surgery before a planned pregnancy (or having the blood vessels checked) can be of help, too.

Hugs and prayers, dear!

[Mistress]

[i] Thank You Jacobitedreamer

A lot of good information there.. and if ever, I will keep it in mind.

As far as your friend, I am sorry. I hope things work out for her in the future..

Be well!

Mistress