are one thing to watch. Too high an expectation can dishearten children and plunge their self esteem into the abyss. I have loving children and 2 things I learned, one is that you need to teach them from birth, read to them, interact with them ...my oldest talked early using large words as I talked to her from birth and spent time trying to iteract. I gave them crayons and pens and books and artpads early...also I did art and writing in front of them regularily, it has reaped fruitage, both of them love writing, drawing and are very creative. I then read them alot of true stories (sad ones when they were bad lol! that made them cry..they were ones with a moral and ones geared to give my children feelings for other people...both of them are mushes...this you cannot overdo lol!-I brought up my sister who was quite aloof in her teenage years and a bit unreachable- I thought I failed..but when she inherited our youngest brother who was alot like her...spock....she read the sad books to him...this was the only clue that I had reached her) Along with that you must teach them self love and the value of saying no and self nurturing. I gave them a rule of thumb. You must love others as yourself, don't love others more than yourself, nor yourself more than others. Keep a balance, the other is never give more than you can afford. If you lend out your rent you cannot eat and will starve your own children...no one respects a sucker or someone who does not have healthy respect for themselves. Teach them the value of work and contributing. Teach them they are unique and have something to give that only they can give...themselves. I told my kids that their fingerprints are different. They are the only one like them, thus, they cannot be replaced. That is extremely valuable for them to learn and they are using that approach with their own children. I also exposed them to other cultures. Well that is enough from me. There are other parents here who are good parents and all of us see different things. Hope this helps even just a little.
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My goal is to raise an inquisitive child full of creativity and responsbility and caring for others and to be true to his or her own self always while being a person of good manners and excellent values. What do you think works with kids? I already know our child is going to speak more than one language. And will travel some. But what works for kids?
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